Question 14: I’m so in love with him: Rebuttal.

Unlike every other relationship guru who asks for your questions, however, doesn’t want to hang around for the finer details, we at Ask Seed will not abandon you. We understand that you’re fucked up.

We also understand that taking the time to refute our candid opinions is really nothing more than atavisms or throwbacks to your earlier delusional way of thinking.

We’re not going to ask you to open wide and take our large, really large, gianormous (new word) opinions and swallow them without at least giving you the chance to explain your desperate stance.

Why?

Because your desperation, much like yourself, is unique.

Cause again, if you spend your waking hours chasing those who’ve punted you to the curb of life -- GOOD LUCK.

Why do we feel this way?

One simple reason -- we care.

Question: How many ways can you say "because"?

49!

Anyway, we here at Seed Enterprises are motivated by making you smile, laugh, fart and cry.

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Wait --- just a second --- and think for yourself.

The following is a response to a preceding answer to an even more preceding question that I (we) received. I made an attempt to answer, both honestly and bluntly, however, the questioner felt that a little more info would make me understand why they deserve to be in the "state" that they’re in.

Actually the questioner is pretty friggen cool and seems to have a grasp on reality. She went through a period….a period of shit. A period that eventually brought her to the realization of: self preservation.

The point is: don’t waste too much time and energy on people, that is on people, who don’t want you.

Cause they’re bastards and &#!*s. Really they are.

Unless of course you’re the: (see the above sentence), if that is the case -- grow up.

As for your friends, you already know this: the ones that didn’t allow you to mourn - they suck. We all need to cleanse our systems of heartache and those who put restrictions upon this said cleansing, well, they can all just piss off. Don’t you think?

"I'm so in love with u", it has been a pleasure offering you our perspective. We think you’re stellar and precious at the same time.

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Hello Vancouver Seed,

like many single people out there i was looking for a productive way to get over someone. Don't get me wrong i did go through the self loathing period where i couldn't eat and couldn't stop crying, but eventually i got tired of this. Disgustingly tired of this and of myself. I was no longer the strong person i was. The only good thing about going through a hard break up is you lose weight, i dropped ten pounds not to mention a whole person ( my ex).

YEAH!

I notice I was not myself so did my other "friends".

Who could blame them i was no longer fun to be around all i could do was talk about my ex.

Anyways in an attempt to be more constructive and regain myself, I started looking into self help books as well as relationship books. I found them to be humorous and sad at the same time. I also notice patterns that I had when it came to being in a relationship, such as i was dating the same type of people, none the less Seed's relationship theories came about. I went to the website read some of the blogs and just found it to be completely funny.

Thanks

I’m so in love with u

Question 16 Bosom Blues…….

Hi seed!

Knowing that you have some strong opinions, that I mostly agree with; I was wondering where you stand on plastic surgery?

Does it matter if someone is born a 10 or if they pay to get there?

If you've had work done, and your sweetie doesn't ask, when should you tell?

I mean, you shouldn't have to say hello, I'm so and so and I've been cut open for vanity sake, right?

But you don't want to be left to explain where your firstborns nose really came from either.

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Dear CSD

Where do I stand on plastic surgery?

Fun. Finally a question that one can chomp down on and sink their teeth into. A question that doesn’t orbit the shallowness of relationship crises. A question that is not masked with superficiality. A question so filled with substance that it wouldn’t be appropriate to jump into a sarcastic laced tirade.

The mental exertion required to answer this important question will surely leave me enervated.

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Boob, tits, high beams, hooters, d-cups, fun bags and lactation. Every hot blooded man would ache with excitement for an opportunity to advise women on what they need to do with their knockers.

I know CSD you are not necessarily talking about breast implants, however, after reading between the lines and seeing your picture I came to the conclusion that was the true intention of your query. Therefore, that is the prime course my answer will follow. Hopefully with style and grace. And, of course a little titillation.

CSD what the hell do you need implants for? You’re a hot young woman.

I’m ecstatic that you agree with most of my strong thrusting opinions. I’m more elated that you’ve taken the time to read them. After all I don’t want everyone to agree, I really prefer people to think for themselves and draw their own conclusion. Cause in the grand scheme of things if all we do is agreey, agreey (the previous word is not a real word) thingy, then what would be the point of all of us existing?

Ewwwweee I just had a horrible thought: what if we all thought alike and our thoughts were derived from the mind of GWB. I need to find a porcelain bowl - now. Masturbation would quickly become a thing of the past. Wouldn’t it?

Public Service Announcement

Please think for yourself.

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To get to the meat of your question. Boobs are really, really neat. They are fun to look at. They are fun to tweak. They are fun to watch go bouncy, bouncy when you run. They are fun to cuddle with. For us guys and you gals too - they are one of the first places we clamp onto when we are brought into this world. They provide us with both comfort and nourishment. For most guys the obsession starts with the first suckle and continues throughout our lives.

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It is virtually impossible to write about boobs and sound intelligent.

For others life sends them south to different more hairy pastures. Not that there is anything wrong with that. If that’s the way you’re wired - that’s the way you’re wired.

For most women they represent a commonality with the sisterhood. Something to be explored and talked about during pillow fights. Something to control the minds and nether regions of us weak-kneed men. Boobs are power.

For others, they tend to linger. Mommy tries to pry their sultry lips away, but, she can’t. Their precious angels keep coming back for more and more. A tweak , a caress and a suckle or two.

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“That’s all I want. That’s all I need.”

“Sherry you’re 23 now, shouldn’t you be heading south.”

“No. I love softball, soccer and you. Please let me stay. I beg of you.”

The above dialogue is entirely fictitious and is meant to illustrate a possible starting point for lesbianism. Not all lesbians play softball or soccer. They may. However, I’m pretty sure that they are a mixed bag like all humans. I’m also pretty sure they have a variety of interests scanning all aspects of life. The one thing I’m certain of is that they love your boobs. Not that there is anything wrong with that.

As for my stance. Frankly I don’t get it. Sure I love breasts. I love the human body. I can’t possibly understand what it is like to be a woman. Us guys have it simple, for us competition comes in the form of sports, business and in the current state of the world, war. Since the beginning of time we’ve been the hunter and provider. For you guys (the fairer sex), life seemed to be more about the softer aspects of life. Child-birth, nurturing, maintaining a home and providing emotional support. What a friggen hell that must be: taking care of our simple minds and over developed egos.

Then throw into the equation "equality" and how the hell are you guys (girls) supposed to cope? On one hand you still have to give birth, nurture and provide comfort.

On the other, you’ve now entered the business arena in search of independence and equality.

The thing is, none of us can ever truly be equal or independent for that matter. We need each other. I need boobs. Ooops, that just slipped in. That is what this big mess is all about. Finding someone to complement you. Or me for that matter. I truly believe that this equality we are all so desperately trying to achieve really relates to couples. Be it straight, gay or any other combination. Each partner provides strengths and weaknesses to the relationship equation and if it is the right combination it will balance it out and create a harmonious existence.

That brings us back to your tits. My opinion is: don’t alter them. I’m sure they are beautiful just the way they are. If you’d like: I could take a peak at them for you. Any guy who isn’t a big prick would be lucky to be able to gently caress and fondle them. I sincerely mean that. Like I said I can’t imagine what it would be like to be a woman. However, it really is not worth the effort to alter nature in attempts to win over some ass. And, I even like looking at fake hooters. But, and this is a big but, for me I wouldn’t be interested in a woman who got a boob job. Unless they were to get a brain job to adjust for their mental shortcomings too.

Looks and life are ephemeral. That is until medical research adds another gazillion years to our life-span. Even though I’m not sure we are supposed to be messing with our appearances for vanity reasons. It saddens me that so much emphasis is placed upon appearance that sometimes we have to just to compete. It’s time to change course and say fuck it. Don’t you think?

CSD I know you’ll do whatever you feel. That is a good thing. And, if you’ve got it in your head to get some “work” done, you’re likely looking for someone to give you encouragement and support your decision. You’ll likely disregard those who don’t. I’m just not going to be the one who says: go ahead, alter yourself. I think that if you do you will be making a mistake and even if you catch the eye of whomever you’re looking for it will be a shallow, superficial victory.

Being a 10 may open doors for you, however, being a 10 of heart, mind and soul is of far greater intrinsic value. Unfortunately, often with looks comes shallowness and the pursuit of beauty can leave one empty. So, yes it does matter if you pay to get that way. If you pay - in my estimation you are nothing more than a fraud.

As for telling your suitors of the “work” you’ve had done. Well that is entirely up to you. If you’ve had a boob job and he can’t figure it out for himself: where are you trolling for your Neanderthals? The point is: it is your life and your past, what you choose to reveal is your business. Just don’t be retarded about it. We may be simple, however, most of us know the goods.

Finally, I’m sure you were being silly when you spoke of your first-born. Last time I checked: plastic surgery doesn’t alter genetics. Nevertheless, you bring up a good point. If one spends the big dough to go from troll to swan and then chooses to have children, instead of setting aside an educational fund for their offspring it may be necessary to set aside a surgery fund. Just think of the fantastic fucking message surgery sends to the kids. May as well start them off with illusions and lies.

What a ridiculous time we live in.

I’ve just about exhausted my key strokes on this one. Boobs, boobs, boobs, boobs, boobs…… switching from key to another kind of stroke soon. Just kidding.

I’m going to leave you with a little story. As much as I think that alteration for vanity reasons is ludicrous, I do believe that there are instances where it may be necessary. After all we’ve evolved as a society and part of the evolution is medical advances. Accident and assault victims spring to mind.

A good friend of mine had met a saucy little vixen from Seattle recently. He explained to me how their night turned into morning and with morning came passion. In this case, the passion turned to sex. In great exhaustive detail, he painted a picture of nudity and contorting bodies. His descriptions left little to the imagination. Seconds of bliss, turned to minutes and eventually turned into hours. Climax followed by respite was repeated in endless cycles of pleasure. Until…..until as he so aptly described his guest Jo Jo (name has been changed to protect her identity. Her real name is Joann_.) was nearing release.

Next - during the heat of the moment, while in the throes of passion: CHOMP. My friend explains a penile vice was attached that was nearing the land of Bobbit. His screams were apparently so loud that every tenant on each of the 17 floors of his building must’ve heard them. He screamed repeatedly: STOP BITING! He tells me she looked hot, flustered, dazed and confused all at the same time.

Finally she unclamped. A tooth halo had formed around his junk. Skin was broken.

When he shared his ordeal, I was slightly disturbed.

“Seed, do you want to take a look at my dick?”

“Uhm, no.”

“You’ve got to see this.”

“No.”

“Please!”

“Ok, how about next Tuesday?”

“Sure, that will work for me.”

I’m hoping it heals by Tuesday. The point is: fake boobs won’t make you a better person.

As for Lesbians - I have an innate ability: I can spot a dyke in a lineup.

In my friend's instance, if the clamp wasn’t released and he lost his tally-whacker, I believe plastic surgery would make perfect sense.

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My question to you: re-attach or gender change?

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Question 15 “My gal digs other gals………”

August 15th/2005

It was a warm August evening in beautiful Vancouver. I was only 10 minutes into my daily mind-clearing walk when a stranger approached.

"Hey where are you heading?"

"I'm just out for a relaxing, mind-clearing walk," I offered in return to this inquisitive individual.

Scccrrreeeeeccccccchhhhhh....

Hold it, hold it, hold it. The above is an aberration. I do not write that way or talk that way. I don't know what came over me that caused me to do so, I will refrain from being so fucking lame in the future. Bear with me.......

In the spirit of Dance Hall Reggae - reeeewiiiiiinnnnnnnnd.

I was walking. It was nice out. Pretty damn warm. The walks help me to relax. Some guy I didn't know came up to me and asked where I was going? I was apprehensive. What the fuck does this guy want from me?

He asked if he could walk with me...…?

Scccreeeecccchhhhhh.

That’s not it either. I've matured and the above is also no longer me. I have more pizzazz than that.

Reeewwwiinnnnnd - pause - fast forward - screw it. I'll just continue where I left off.

Get this, he recognized my picture from a column of mine that had been recently in a local paper.

Was this the start of Seed's climb into celebrity status? How wicked would that be? No more line-ups. Right to the front of the burger joints. I was honored to be recognized, however, I was thinking, could the paparazzi be far behind?

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"Hey what the fuck are you following me for?"

For those readers who after reading the last few lines started to think that Seed is developing an over-inflated sense of self. He's not. He (I) truly believes that the paparazzi couldn't care less about him, nor, will they ever be interested in his amazingly unassuming lifestyle. I don't foresee the snorting of anything off anyone’s bosoms in the near future. And to be blunt, why can't you allow me to bask in my brief moments of notoriety and of feeling pretty?

Have I ever discounted your accomplishments?

Well - have I?

Ok then, shame on you. Go to your room and think about what you've done.

The point is, I was touched to be recognized, not literally touched, but touched nonetheless. Sometimes I like to be touched. Would you like to touch..........?

Sorry about that I drifted off to a happy, touchy feely place for a second. A somewhat naughty happy place filled with over-stuffed pillows, grapes and seductive.......

Where was I?

"Live Seed", you say. Thanks.

Instead of continuing on with the dialogue and witty banter being exchanged between me and my new friend (Jay), I'll just get to the gist or the crux of our conversation and turn Jay's dialogue into another installment of Ask Seed - Live & Unplugged.

I won’t stop there, you'd think that would be enough, I'm even going to offer you my thoughtful reply. Pretty damn snazzy, hey?

Dear Live Seed

Seed it is a pleasure to meet you, I've caught your last 2 columns in 24 Hours Vancouver and I must say I found them to be entertaining and informative.

Seed, I'd like to ask you about a problem I'm having with my girl. You see we've been dating for a year, I'm 36 and she is 22. Though leery of her young age I fell deeply in love with her.

The only problem is our age difference, however, I love her so much that I told her if she found someone more her age I'd understand if she left me.

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Recently we broke up for a week, during which she slept with someone else. That really pissed me off, I feel like she disrespected me. How could she love me one moment and the next be sleeping with someone else?

I never cheated on her during that week.

The following week we got back together again and it seemed like we were really in love. Unfortunately Seed, it all fell apart a few weeks later and we broke up a second time.

I am struggling with this and I'm very heartbroken. Then came the bombshell, she said that she was into women. I'd be ok with that if we stayed together. Apparently she had been with women before. Just sort of a messing around and experimenting.

This time though, she actually started dating another girl.

How the fuck could she do this? How disrespectful. How could she shame me in my community?

I told her if this disrespect ever was in front of me and that if they kissed each other in front of me or any of my friends I'd kick both of their asses. She got scared and called the police.

Seed, I love her and would never do anything to hurt her. I was just upset.

I really love her and want her in my life. I want to be good friends with her. I just can't take the disrespect. Especially with women. It makes me look bad.

What can I do to keep her in my life?

Can I buy you a soda?

Missing Muffy.

Dear Missing Muffy

“Is this on?”

Tap - tap - tap......

“Test 1, 2, 3.....“

“Seed, you're an idiot, you are walking down the street. There are no lights, no cameras, no......…”

M2 , sorry about that I got carried away to another land, a land where all of my cares drifted away and everything had become blissful. A peaceful, easy feeling had shrouded me in comfort never before seen in these parts. A land where opportunity had met fortune and all life had learned to co-exist in a harmonious manner. Orgasms had become multiple. Penile enlargement reality - no longer the solicitations of spammers.

Or, what the hell am I talking about? If you figure it out please let me know.

Now that I’m returning to fine fettle: lets continue. M2 you’re guilty of following your groin and not your brain (36 vs. 22). How the hell did you expect it to work? Would it work if it was 22 vs. 8? Of course not and you are a bit of a silly nit if you think your relationship had a chance of lasting.

You state right from the get-go: “Though leery of her young age. I fell deeply in love with her.”

You’re not a fool, I know from our chat, but quit telling big juicy fibs. From your statement you knew that this relationship was nothing more than a sexual fling with a hot young damsel. Being “leery” illustrates the certainty of future demise.

The thing is relationships with such great age differences may have a chance, however, the likelihood is slim. Not only are men and women wired differently. Men and women from different decades are a trillion years and issues away when it comes to life. What could you possibly talk about?

She likely has little life experience and you need to understand that. As for you, 36, you must have experienced a few things by now, such as: death in your family (or amongst friends and acquaintances), loss of job, premature ejaculation, food poisoning, adorable little kitties and pony rides. Let her live her life - let her experience some things. It is not your responsibility to chaperone her.

So, quit kidding yourself. You say you love her so much if she found someone closer to her age you’d let her go.

How fucking noble and pathetic. Wait - subtract the noble, daddy.

Time out. I think it is time for a bit of random seed art & photography.

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Don’t you?

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Do you have so little self-respect that you’re willing to fall deeply in love and let your love go when she finds someone more suitable (her age)?

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It sounds as if you’re a little bit clueless and don’t understand how love really works. I’m not going to get into it here, I would however like to suggest that you give some real thought to your statements.

I’m pretty sure that most wedding vows don’t contain: “Till death do us part or until you find someone more compatible.”

Hell, you weren’t in a real love relationship. It more resembles a daycare, or an attempt to hold onto your youth.

M2, freedom finally came for both of you. A semblance of sense arrived in the form of breaking up. However, you demonstrate that the relationship wasn’t really about love - it was more so about control. You controlling her.

You broke up - she slept with someone - you never cheated during the break-up. Are you listening to yourself?

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You were given the pink slip. She wanted her freedom. I can’t scream this out loud enough, however, amazingly people just don’t want to hear this:

ONCE THE RELATIONSHIP PINK SLIP IS ISSUED YOU DON’T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP ANYMORE. EVERY SHITTY THING THAT TOOK PLACE DURING THE RELATIONSHIP ARE SIMPLY SHITTY THINGS THAT TOOK PLACE DURING THE RELATIONSHIP. SHE CAN SLEEP WITH WHOMEVER SHE WANTS. IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. YOUR ONLY HOPE FOR GROWTH IS IF YOU GET HER OUT OF YOUR MIND. NO CONTACT. NO PINING. NO………. IT WILL NOT DO YOU ANY GOOD. THERE WILL BE NO HAPPY ENDING.

Of course you won’t listen. Few do. Instead, sharing our beds with misery, gloom and desperation seem to be on the menu for most of the broken hearted. My suggestion: waste your time pining and trying to remain friends. Personally I love it when my past loves tell me who they are screwing. It makes me feel really, really, really, really, really, really good. In fact I like to hear of a cavalcade of new more proficient lovers warming the sheets where I once used to lay.

By the way, you were broken up. Cheating while single is really just sex - cheating = sex.

Your quick resolution may indicate, as I said above, that you have some redeeming qualities. She without question has feelings for you and genuinely doesn’t want to see you in pain and suffering. Yet, she quickly realized that you’re not the one for her. I am.

Ok, no I’m not. I don’t even know her, but, 22 and hot, I’m sure I could be for a while. Don't worry, I don’t have a clue who she is.

Your bombshell: she likes women. You lucky dog. You know what that means?

It means your esteem can remain intact. Her breaking up with you has nothing to do with you. Her experimentation led her to the conclusion that she’s gay. Not bi. Not bi-curious. Just simply gay. My friend, you didn’t have a chance. You should be happy for her and that should make it easier for you to let her go. You do know you have to let her go? You don’t own her.

Another beautiful thing about her revelation is that if you do truly want to be her friend you may have a chance - that is if you give yourself enough time away from her. After exiting the situation for a long enough period of time, you have a tremendous opportunity to show that you care by letting her know you understand how difficult her situation is and that you truly understand that the split was nothing personal. It just happens to be the way she is wired.

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Now for some real serious shit. You fucked up. Pretty royally. You showed her zero respect by threatening her with violence. Even if you know, she knows and the whole damn world knows you would never do anything. You crossed a line. You painted yourself as the bad guy and now you run the risk of tarnishing everything good in your past relationship. If you continue to impose your will upon her, you are going to screw up everything in your life. Is that your goal?

If it is you’re a dangerous idiot with no future. You are 36 - now show some maturity and act that way. If you don’t, you may get to be someone’s bitch in a prison cell. Do you want to be Fat Tony’s bitch?

Threats of violence are unacceptable and show me that you really don’t respect her or even yourself at times. It sucks that you lost someone you loved. I truly know how that feels. It sucks even more when there is a big age difference as it can highlight how fleeting our youth is. I want to hold onto mine as long as I can. But, you must learn to like yourself and accept who you become.

“If they only knew how much I love them.”

Does that sound familiar?

In conclusion:

• Older guys usually have problems letting young beauties go. I think it may be due either to desperation or control issues.
• Get away. Far, far away. No contact of any sort.
• Practice choking the chicken, spanking the monkey and stroking the bolt upright.
• Screw your head on and do some soul searching.
• If you can get your head around the fact that your ex likes the loins of the fairer sex - you may one day be able to stand being in the same room together. That is only if you accept who she is.
• You say you love her. If you do, let her have her own experiences and live her own life.
• Understand that she doesn’t make you look bad - you make you look bad.

One last thing: absolutely nothing. That is what you can do to keep her in your life. It's not up to you.

You likely don’t want to hear this: the chances of you remaining friends are miniscule at best. Cherish what you had. If some day you magically become friends - bonus.

And finally, yes, I’ll have a Ting.

Remember You Asked.…

-the seed

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Question 14 “I’m so in love with him….”

Dear Seed:

So I was in this 10 month relationship if you can even call it that, basically, i was dating him and only dating him and i dont know if he can say the same.

The thing is he moved away two months ago and we’re still friends and keep in touch. Every time i talk to him, i try really hard to just keep the conversation friendly and to not continue our so-called relationship. He's asked me to go see him and I've told him many times no, i've even told him i was starting to date.

I still like him a lot and this is why i cant visit him, because i cannot go through another 10 months of ambiguities with thinking to myself: "Am i his girlfriend or not?"

Basically letting him get away with: "I'm not seeing anyone else, only you, why do we have to be in a relationship."

We've always said things like, "i miss you or i care about you, " but, recently i got this email stating: "You need to see me, I'm in love with you, i cant stop thinking about you."

1. So what the hell does that mean?
2. Is he just lonely?

He has friends where he moved to, so i dont know what to do. I still like him, but, i can’t go through with him breaking my heart again.

• what does "I'm in love with you mean ?"
• is it the same as "I love you ?"

I know he cares about me and he's never used the word "love" with me, so i dont know what he means.

I want to be his friend should i try this again or leave it alone ?

I’m so in love with u

Dear I’m so in love with you

Wow!

This is my second question in a row with a fear of capital letters.

Are you the same person just trying to mess with my mind?

If you are, I want you to know that my family already has done enough messing and basically my mind is now unmessable.

*Blink* blink* *blink* - the word unmessable is brand spanking new.

Fun hey!

It may go to an early grave. Personally, I think it looks kind of stupid and that the way a word looks should determine its longevity.

Don’t you?

Of course you do. Your use of the letter “I”, damn it to hell anyway, my computer program keeps capitalizing the letter “I”. How can I make a point if my point-making pointer fails me?

The thing is, the last two questions have had a substantial number of lower case “eyes”. And I feel the use of these “eyes” may become a true shibboleth, dividing the youth of today and the grammatically correct intellectuals of the past.

Once again: Don’t you?

I’m not skirting your actual question, however, in the "Ask Seed Question Instruction Book" it suggests several paragraphs of nonsensical rambling (hopefully funny), before a serious attempt at answering the question is made. So relax and…..

Ok, I’m just about ready.

Soon my answer to your dilemma will be freeing us both, to the point that we will find closure.

Basically, my answer is about to complement your needs.

By the way I’m not a wordsmith, I just happen to know a lot of words and I like to rid them from my mind so I can fit in some fresh ones for the future. Seriously now, I have no intention of becoming maudlin eliminating your desire to retreat to the bottle eventually crying into an empty glass.

I’m not peddling a Panglossian view of the world, or denying that your problems merit a feasible answer. My views are in fact quite the opposite.

My head hurts.

Ok to your question -- you were in a 10-month relationship and somehow you aren't certain if the relationship even existed. Talk about being taken advantage of.

Can I ask you a couple of questions?

Of course I can.

I became simple for a second there as I received your question via the internet and asking your permission is about as fucking wimpy as one can be.

Fuck the questions: “You were dating him and you're not sure he could say the same.”

Again - WOW!

You’re better than that. He is simply “fucking you”.

If you are a special person, and I am sure that you are simply by virtue of the fact that you took the time and care enough to ask the opinions of others, then you must take an objective look at the hard and naked facts.

So, some guy you dig moved away after a marginal, one-sided relationship and you still pine for him on some level. And, now that he doesn’t have the “guaranteed” outlet, he is telling you that he loves you and you don’t know what to do.

Well here are the straight goods. With the exception of the lower case “eyes” you are probably hot. He is likely an immature chump who doesn’t realize how good he had it. You need to snap out of it. You weren’t in a relationship. You have to come to terms with that.

You may love him. He doesn’t love you. Not now - not likely ever. Maybe in the future. Fuck that. He’s not capable of it.

You're entirely right in thinking his message has different meanings. He is messing with your mind. You represent the bullpen to him. You're in the on-deck circle and if he can’t find a new “fuck”, you’ll do.

My gut feel is he is friggen lonely and “striking out” on a regular basis. Depending on how far he is away from you he is a big, gigantic loser. If he is claiming he is in “love” with you and he is only a short distance (by short I mean less than a 6-hour drive) away, then where the fuck is the effort? No one works 7 days a week.

He is definitely not in love with you. You would always be the first option if he was. He would wait to be rejected before he ventured out into new pastures. You haven’t rejected him.

You deserve better. That doesn’t mean you're not messed up a bit. You are. You’ve spent 10 months with someone without knowing if you're dating or not. That is pretty messed up.

In conclusion, you have to ask yourself three questions:

1. Do you love yourself?
2. Why are you so needy that you “pine” for this guy so badly?
3. Was the sex really that good?

Once you answer those questions you may actually have a workable answer.

I’m guessing that he is likely from a split-up, dysfunctional family and you may be too. I’m guessing that you guys are both young. Early twenties would be my guess. You can correct me if I’m wrong.

And finally, if the sex was great, it is time for you to turn the tables. No more talk about how much you love him. No more mushy - mushy - mushy. No more neediness. You’re hot and he needs to know that. He needs to know that you will survive without him. From now on intimacy is in your control and if he can’t handle it, too bad. He blew it.

It is very unlikely that he has ever truly loved you or for that matter even cared about you. He wouldn’t disrespect you if he did. As for love - I’m sure you loved him, he has never however, loved………..

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